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5 Situations to Observe the True Nature of Your Mate
Everything has been great so far. It seems like your mate is the Mr. or Ms. Perfect. But when life throws us a curveball, a different side of your mate emerges. He or she gets angry, irritated, or hungry and behave in a different way you normally don’t see.
This isn’t the spell of love being broken. It’s what eventually happens in all healthy relationships. It’s an opportunity to observe the real nature of your mate, if you are planning on a long-term commitment. Here are some situations where his or her true nature emerges.
How a person handles the mishaps of traveling can tell a lot about how willing he or she is to go with the flow and handle stress. Sometimes the Mr. or Ms. Perfect from the same old town doesn’t always translate to the Mr. or Ms. Perfect of a lifetime, so pay attention to the cues when your mate is in unfamiliar surroundings.
This isn’t the spell of love being broken. It’s what eventually happens in all healthy relationships. It’s an opportunity to observe the real nature of your mate, if you are planning on a long-term commitment. Here are some situations where his or her true nature emerges.
1. Sickness
When your mate is under the weather, how you respond will say about yourself. If you can care for your mate in a compassionate manner, you obviously have plenty of patience. The cool-as-a-cucumber attitude is always a great asset, especially when the going gets tough. If you don’t have the capacity to handle his or her needs, this is something to think about seriously, because you may be taking care of this person for extended periods of time if the relationship moves on.2. Arguing
Fighting in and of itself isn’t predictive of breakups, but how a person argues is more likely to reflect the reality of who this person is. It shows if he or she is willing to come to a compromise or just bulldozes over as a means to an end. Does your mate criticize, defend, or humiliate you? Can he or she calm down and finish the discussion in a respectful manner? Take into consideration how your mate treats you in the heat of battle. If your partner fights dirty and cannot respect you and your points of view, then perhaps you should reconsider your choice of a long-term partner.3. Traveling
A trip is an adventure, and how your mate deals with being out of his or her comfort zone can tell you a lot. Does your mate hold strict timetable like a camp counselor or enjoy the experience of exploring? Does your partner flip out, complain or whine when you get lost or stay calm and find out the way back with you? Or does he or she laugh when the map flies out the window or when a cow in the middle of the road holds up traffic?How a person handles the mishaps of traveling can tell a lot about how willing he or she is to go with the flow and handle stress. Sometimes the Mr. or Ms. Perfect from the same old town doesn’t always translate to the Mr. or Ms. Perfect of a lifetime, so pay attention to the cues when your mate is in unfamiliar surroundings.