We’ve all heard it over and over again. “Opposites attract.” People who are dramatically different from us are often the most attractive. It’s common sense. Our social lives are built upon connections with others who possess abilities or talents we don’t have.

However, developing a relationship with an opposite is so hard because every difference you two have requires negotiation and adaptation, which will cause stress in your life. If there are too many differences, you may not be able to survive all the tension involved in adapting to each other.

What type of differences causes the most trouble? Here are some thoughts.

Personal Habits – This includes personal hygiene, punctuality, food regimen, smoking, drinking, etc.

Spending Habits – When one person wants to save for the future and the other is eager to spend and enjoy life now, the conflict can be deadly to a relationship.

Communication Skills and Interests – If one person is dying for more conversation and the other wants more peace and quiet, there is a lot of tension.

So next time you’re feeling attracted to someone who is drastically different than you, think twice. A satisfying relationship usually involves two people who are much alike.