Girls, blunders and bloopers happen! You may accidentally call your date Joe when his name is Jack. You may spill a glass of red wine on his nice, new carpet. You might get a glob of spinach stuck in your teeth and only notice it two hours later. But certain mistakes are not as charming as those cute fumbles and are far more damaging to the potential of developing a long healthy relationship with your partner. They are caused by lapses of judgment and not thinking rationally. Here are some of the most common ones:

1. Making Dates Like “Job Interviews”

It is natural to want to know about you date as much as you can, e.g., his job, family background, hobbies, etc. But probing too much too fast and too early can make you come across as pushy and intrusive. Give your date some space. Just enjoy yourself and bring up those questions as the opportunity presents itself.

2. Unloading past relationship baggage

We all have gone through painful breakups that are not easily forgotten. But dating is a chance to meet someone new, someone who might have the potential to share the future with you. So, don’t let the old aches or agonies join you and your date. Refrain from talking about past relationships or the ways in which you were mistreated. What was supposed to be a fun romantic dinner can suddenly turn into a bitter run down of grievances. The time may come for you to discuss your past relationships, but be careful about sharing too much too soon.

3. Talking about long-term commitment too soon

Men prefer to ease into the subject slowly and after spending plenty of time getting to know their partner. The first months of dating are for getting enjoying each other without the pressure of finding out “the future”. If dating is destined to grow into a long-term relationship, you both will know when the time is right to bring it up. Forcing the issue too early will only drive him away.

4. Being ungrateful and unappreciative

You have to realize that planning and pulling off a date can be stressful for a man, particularly when he has a lot to deal with at work or home. It takes time, effort, thoughts and sometimes even courage to orchestrate a great date. So, show gratitude and acknowledge his hard work. The words “Thank You” might be short but goes a long way.